First love, for a man, is the first trembling and rapid heartbeat in his heart when he is in love. It is also pure love without any interests. It is also the purest love when he is young and frivolous. First love is the first time that I know what love is, feel the taste of love for the first time, and understand the unforgettable love. Many people's first love can't go to the end, which is difficult to calm. Therefore, in men's hearts, the first love is unforgettable and irreparable regret. Therefore, the first love has become a kind of sustenance, a kind of reassuring feeling that makes people recall their innocence and pure leisure, and a kind of power that makes people work hard to love.

    But is it really fair for a man to do this to his current girlfriend or to her who is about to become a girlfriend? Is it really acceptable for women? The answer is no. No woman can tolerate the man she loves. There is someone else in her heart, just like a bird can't find its place. No matter where it goes, someone else will occupy it. This feeling is fatal for women. It feels like a substitute for your first love, and it is also a kind of suffering for each other.

    Xiaobian once had such an example around him. His friend was in this torment, but he was unwilling to let go.

    Here's the thing:

    Xiaomei and her boyfriend Xiaozhi met because of a butterfly cartoon keychain. Is it a little ridiculous, but it really originated from a keychain.

    One day, in the rush hour subway, in the crowded subway, Xiaomei was crowding to get off, but she was pushed and pushed by people around. Before Xiaomei could react, a man grabbed Xiaomei's arm and pulled her down. Xiaomei was stunned. After regaining consciousness, she quickly thanked each other and left in a hurry. Not far away, the man caught up and patted her on the shoulder. Xiaomei turned around and saw the other party holding a butterfly cartoon keychain and asked, "did you drop it?"? The man pinched the butterfly when he handed it to Xiaomei. Xiaomei saw that the rope on the key chain was indeed her own. In order to express her gratitude, she invited the man to have a drink. In this way, Xiaomei and Xiaozhi met.

    After a period of understanding, Xiaomei and Xiaozhi expressed their feelings to each other and finally confirmed their relationship. Therefore, xiaobutterfly became a token of their love. Xiaomei always thought that fate was wonderful and many things were destined. It was not until one day, when Xiaomei and Xiaozhi had dinner with their friends that they realized that everything was not so good.

    On the way to dinner, Xiaomei accidentally exposed the butterfly cartoon key chain when she took a paper towel from her bag, which was seen by Xiaozhi's friend. The friend said: sister-in-law, you are so cute and familiar with this little butterfly. I feel like I have seen it somewhere. Just when Xiaomei wanted to ask something, Xiaozhi immediately said: it's sold in many places, and it's not surprising to have seen it.

    In this regard, Xiaomei didn't take this matter to heart. Instead, she met her friend's girlfriend when she went to the bathroom to make up. She and Xiaomei said: does Xiaozhi like pinching little butterfly very much, because his first love likes this little butterfly very much, with exactly the same key chain. With that, she left with a mocking voice, leaving Xiaomei alone in the bathroom.

    Xiaomei didn't embarrass her boyfriend Xiaozhi at the moment, nor did she ask Xiaozhi, but she silently hid it in her heart. Later, Xiaomei found me and told me about it. She thought she was like a substitute for Xiaozhi's first love. Xiaozhi was unfair to her!

    Under my persuasion, Xiaomei took the initiative to mention this matter to Xiaozhi. Xiaozhi said that she really can't forget her first love, but she didn't take Xiaomei as a substitute for anyone, but because Xiaomei is Xiaomei, a person who fits her heart. Love is two-way, if there is no love for each other, it is impossible to come together; After the happy ending, Xiaomei and Xiaozhi fell in love more than before.

    Because Xiaomei is still worried that Xiaozhi can't let go of her first love, but she doesn't want to make a conflict. Therefore, she expressed her willingness to give Xiaozhi time to completely put down her first love and get back together with herself. This is a smart way. Xiaomei gives Xiaozhi personal space and knows how to respect and understand each other.

    Love is mutual. The reason why men can't forget their first love is that the person they love more hasn't appeared yet. If the doomed person appears, men will certainly treat her wholeheartedly, and the first love and his predecessor will always put down, it's just a matter of time!